Having the ability to make a good communication is one of the important skills nowadays. It also impacts on your health and in every possible situation you can think of.

The secret of a successful relationship is communication. Appropriate communication helps you not to be in conflict and solves your problems easier. Clean and honest communication is also important for making friends and your social activities.

Communication may appear in different ways. Some people don’t express their needs or don’t ask for what they want. They have passive communication. They don’t assert their own needs and say “it doesn’t matter if you win and I lose”. On the contrary we have another form of communication in which the person expresses his needs forcefully. The person’s communication is unfriendly this way. Such people think their needs are more important than yours. We call this an aggressive communication. And the last one is assertive communication that involves expressing what you want and how you think, without demanding things in your way. In assertive communication you have good relationship, you avoid conflict and you say no to other requests without feeling guilty, you make intellectual request of other people and accept their rights to say no.

In family relationships, communication plays a vital role. For example you need to let your spouse to know what you think and what you may want and do not assume that he already knows it. In many cases it leads to misunderstanding. You may think that he knows what he is doing is annoying you, even though you haven’t actually told him and he may not know it.

Knowing how to have a good initial communication is useful to any single person and it is serious in finding and keeping a date. It’s better to consider some primary things in your connection with your mate. Use his first name in your date. This makes your mate feel easy and comfortable. Speak with other person about common interests. Smile more often while you are speaking with your friends. Pay your friend a compliment; it makes him feel confident. You don’t need to fake but be enthusiastic and try to pay attention to him.

However there are people who feel ashamed for any reason. They feel they aren’t good in communication and they have problems to express what they need or think. They don’t like to be pointed out that they are quiet and shy. They think that they don’t have suitable communication skills and suffer from it.

If you have problem like this try have a good body language. Stand up straight with enough confidence. Don’t cross your arm over you chest, this tells people that you are disapproved. Keep your hand in your lap if you are sitting. Listen carefully and often use smiling in you conversations. Tilt your head to the side and nod. This shows your agreement. Have confidence when you are speaking. Project your voice when you feel shyness. Try to look into the person’s eyes when you are speaking with him. If you avert this, you look nervous and not trust worthy.

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